Is a remittance advice proof of payment?
Not on its own. A remittance advice says which invoices a payment covers and how much the customer intends to pay. It may be sent before the money has actually moved. A bank confirmation, trace number or cleared check shows the money actually left the customer's account.
What is the best proof of payment for an ACH transfer?
A bank confirmation showing the amount, date and beneficiary account, together with the ACH trace number. The trace number lets your bank search for the incoming payment. Check the beneficiary account number matches yours before anything else.
How long should I wait before asking for proof of payment?
Allow for the payment method. If an ACH payment or wire has not arrived a few business days after the customer says it was sent, ask. For a check, allow for mail and clearing time. Ask politely and with the invoice number.
Can a customer pay the wrong account and still owe me?
It depends on the facts and the contract, and it is a legal question. Do not argue it by email. Report suspected fraud, involve both banks quickly, and take advice before deciding what to ask the customer for.